Rebound Relationships? Good or Bad?

What’s wrong with rebound relationships? They allow you to get over a former relationship that’s gone south, so what’s the problem? Unfortunately, a lot things. Lets take a closer look.

If there hasn’t been enough space and time given to allow the past lover to recede into the distance, the new relationship will suffer, naturally. It’s kind of like trying to be in two places at one time. It is just not possible.

Those involved in rebound relationships often find themselves living in the past. Nothing inherently wrong with that, but there are other people involved here. This isn’t just about you.

You need to ask some serious question before even thinking of getting involved with someone who is coming from an intricate past involvement or who has a history of rebound relationships. What was the extent of your former association? What amount of time has past since you last saw them? Where do see us going, as a couple?

The seductive component in these rebound relationships is simply the exhilarating plush of a new romance. Of course, we all know that is stage one. What lies beyond door number two? That’s where you find out what your new involvement is made of. Stage one can be so emotionally powerful, we forget the reality of how relationships really work.

If you find yourself in one of these rebound relationships, or if you are about to enter one, purposely slow things down a tad. It is not going to hurt anything. Be cautious. Ask questions, both of yourself and of your new partner. If the new involvement has value, it can withstand some scrutiny.

We only get from life what we demand of it, and rebound relationships give us some of the most difficult emotional turf we have to negotiate. Ask tough questions. Both of yourself and of your new prospective partner. Don’t allow yourself to be used as an emotional pillow, to be thrown away after a good night’s rest.

Do rebound relationships last? Unfortunately the statistics aren’t very good. That doesn’t mean very one of them is doomed to failure. But, know what you are getting into and the hazards that lay ahead. You’ll be glad you did.

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